We are all unique people. Some of us are more sociable, some are shyer by nature. However, we all want to love and be loved. So, if you like a shy woman or a man, you would likely want to know how to carry out conversations with a shy person. So, here are a few tips on how to communicate with shy people.
• Keep an eye-contact and smile. Be warm and smile, make the eye contact, but don’t expect a shy person to sustain it.
• Try to avoid sudden movement that can threaten a shy person. Also, don’t lean too close. Shy people require more personal space. In case you crossed their physical boundary, lean back. Also don’t accidentally touch a shy person, this will make them confused and naturally scare away.
• Watch the way you speak. Speak slowly and softly. This way you will appear less intimidating to shy people and they will almost lean towards you.
• Be the leader in conversation. Never expect shy people would carry conversation, they will, most likely, not participate much.
• However, bear in mind that the majority of shy people are shy, unless you touch upon the topics they are really interested in or you discuss things they are experts in. so, talk about the topics they want to talk with you.
• Always give a positive feedback to a shy person. This will show you are an attentive listener and that you are interested in conversation. Ask questions, agree with them, not now and then, etc.
• Never talk about their shy nature. Never ask questions like: “Why are you so quiet?” Or the like. Thus you risk making a shy person feel even more self-conscious.
• Try to avoid personal questions as they are intimidating for shy people. Shy people don’t like to provide much personal information at once. Discuss more general topics.
• Invite shy people to do things with you. Some shy people prefer doing things to talking. So, research on the activities your shy man/woman enjoys and invite him/her to do this together.
And finally, be patient and understand that not all people are the same.